Sex is still taboo in many ways, especially if appears in our dreams. We believe that our erotic dreams are literal and fear that we’ll be judged for its content. That’s why we tend to share them less or not share them at all.

Erotic dreams can be literal but, more often than not, are symbolic.

“What does this sex dream mean?” is the most-asked question. However, a more accurate query would be, what does my dream want me to get in love with and integrate in my psyche?


Sexy Men and Women.

Do men and women have erotic dreams with the same frequency? Do they dream about the same type of things? The answer seems to be ‘yes’ in both cases.


“But I don’t Dream!” Many people tell me. I tell them, “no, you really do”. They insist that they don’t. What they really mean is that they don’t remember their dreams.

All of us dream all night long. The most vivid dreams occur in the REM phases of sleep. Depending on the day and the person, we have between four and six REM phases, at intervals of about 90 minutes one from another. Each REM phase is longer than the previous one, the longest being the last one, which is the one that precedes our waking up. That’s why it’s is easier to remember a dream at that moment than in another, especially if you are a beginner dreamer.

In time, as you become a regular dreamer who pays attention and records your dreams, you’ll notice that your brain has a magic bell that rings to wake you up in the middle of the night, sometimes several times, without the need of hearing a sharp sound or the call of the toilet, to allow you record your dreams.

There is an interesting scientific study  that proves that, if for any reason, you have one or several nights of disrupted sleep and decreased REM activity in which you won’t dream much, once your sleep and your REM activity get back to normal your brain will compensate and rebound, producing more dreams than usual, so your dream recall will also increase. Your brain wants you to dream!

Factors that Favour Dream Recall.

So which factors favour dream recall? These are your family environment, your attitude towards your dreams, the things that you do before you go to bed and those you do upon waking up. Let’s examine them in more detail.


Writing our dreams is something important if you want to work with them, either independently or with an analyst. You’ll find that writing your dreams systematically maximises your work with them.

In this post I provide some general guidelines, which I myself use,  to start, maintain, and grow your dream diary. This is the art of writing your dreams.

Why Writing your Dreams?

There are three main reasons. Firstly, when we note down our dreams we are reinforcing our ability to remember them, and at the same time we are re-activating the feelings, emotions, sensations and memories in the dream.


Natural Dream Telepathy sounds an odd combo of words, doesn’t it? Natural and Telepathy together? Yet, the premise of this blog entry is that it is not.

Imagine this case scenario: You are depressed or overjoyed. You haven’t talked to your mother for weeks, but are thinking about her. At that very moment your mother rings.

Most people have experienced this, and nobody would say it’s supernatural or paranormal, right? You don’t see serious scientists doing ECGs on selected subjects in labs to prove that this is real. This is so because most people, scientists included, have experienced this to happen often.

Dream telepathy is something similar. It is just that the phenomenon is less common and it’s experienced by fewer people — normal people with human brains and human bodies, not lizards from planet whatever or X-Men.


Growing your dreams helps you grow. This is one of the premises of analytical (Jungian) psychology to achieve individuation, a process of self-realisation where there is a higher integration of our conscious and unconscious minds.

One of the few ways we can get access to our unconscious mind is by looking at our dreams. So, how does the analysis of dreams help us grow as a person? How long does it take for us to transform? What sort of growth does dreamwork promote?

Don’t Cultivate Weeds


In this last entry devoted to nightmares I offer an exercise, therapeutically tested, that will help you deal with nightmares.

Needless to say, it’s always better to go through it with the guidance and help of a dream analyst or dream clinical psychologist. If you suffer from mental problems or severe trauma, this exercise is not for you, and it could be even harmful to do it on your own.

For the rest, here I am if you need me.

How to Deal with Nightmares.


In this third blog entry devoted to nightmares I give some tips to deal with nightmares in small children.


Never ignore a child’s nightmares and tell them it’s just a dream. For a young child the difference between the dream world and the waking world is not as clear as it is for an adult, and they live their dreams as something real. Encourage children to see the bad dream as something interactive that can be discussed, explored, and change.


The dreadful nightmare. You wake up with the heart pounding, covered in sweat, and distressed; at times you wake up yelling and/or crying. Very often nightmares involve villain characters, imaginary monsters or animals to which you have a phobia pursuing or attacking you.

If the dreams relate to traumatic events, like accidents, death, war and torture, they can put you in the situation you  most dread.

What is a Nightmare?


There is something magic, transformational and grounding about dreamwork. Your soul, your psyche, your dream master, your true self, your true essence (whatever you want to call it) finds its voice through your dreams.

The Dream Voice is Multidimensional

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